Such patterns should never by swept away with the words, “Will you forgive me?” The flesh and the devil thrive when hurts and sins are kept in the dark. Because this is so, one way a wife can love is to let her husband know the consequences of his sin in her life. This is not done to hurt; it is done to heal. 4. Speak with gentleness and love. In a world where advanced technology is power, we often overlook the power of words. Words, however, can disarm angry people. It can be a great encouragement